It seems to be working! Sometimes....

[sandycay]

I don't even know how to begin this post. My heart is breaking and I think my head is cracking
Long Story:
H left town yesterday for two weeks. Last night after talking on the phone and he was on his way to dinner my phone rang again. Well his phone had called me back unbeknownst to him.... You all see where this is going. There are different areas of heart break that I over heard. I list what I heard and how H responded when I ask about it. I desperately need input because my head is spinning:

1st thing I heard was a bit garballed (sp?) I couldn't really tell who was saying what but here's what the jist of it. J the other guy (married) said something to the effect of "I just want to go hang out or talk to other women" and my H said some thing to the effect of "me too". There were missed words in both of the phrases that came out of there mouths but that was the jist.

H tells me at first he doesn't remember this part of the conversation, later he recants and says he can't remember exaclty what was said, then says he can't control what J says or does, but he has not intention of doing anything wrong. he didnt do anything wrong. Later after much pressing he admits something to the effect of what was said and said he was just mouthing off and he really didn't know how to respond to J.

I feel this is BS and if he hadn't got caught he might have gone out flirting with OW.


2nd thing I heard was them talking about an affair at their work place and my H says "well she's not that cute anyway, certainly not cute enough to ruin a marriage, there are plenty of cuter girls in that office". Some of the words in between were again not clear....so I don't know what was said then

Upon questioning him on that he said that I didn't get the whole context of the convesation. He was saying it was wrong because they work in the same office. They needed to change offices. Just kept saying I must have missed everything he was saying.

Again this is not what I would expect my H to say in response to an affair at his workplace.


Here is the last one....H then started saying something about how he had F&cked up his life and that she hurt and messed him up worse than anyone ever had. He then said and I quote " What did I do? I ran home like a f*ucking P*ssy. Because I was hurting and didn't know what else to do. Man, just like a f*cking p*ssy.

I hung up then because I could bear it no more. When I called to tell him I heard all this... he told me he does miss her, then recants and says he doesn't miss "her" he misses that feeling. That excitement. He still wants us. He says it's getting better. Now if you've been following along you know I have had concerns about this for a few months and have point blank ask him about it. He has denied (lied) that it had anything to do with her.

My head says run away based on the first thing I overheard what else evidence do I need that he is acting inappropriately when he is not here. He denies he has done anything. I will add that in his conversation about OW to this guy he did insinuate that there had been no contact.