Puppy gives good advice. Don't close the door and don't make the mistake I made which was to hurt her back. Protect yourself and limit contact, but unless you're sure, which I'm almost positive you're not this early in the game, don't close the door. It is very important point that Puppy makes regarding her choosing a "friend" over her husband. My W did the same thing; that's the first sign that there is far more there than just friendship. There's no one, including my own parents, who I would choose over my W. But the difference is that I still love my W, and she doesn't feel that way back. Your W is in a fog and you're right, nothing you say at this point will penetrate through her wall. Don't jump the gun and assume she's been physical, especially since you had such access to her convos and didn't see anything saying that. I think that's good proof that this may be an EA, but that doesn't really change the impact it will have on M. EAs are far more damaging than PAs. Stop snooping--it won't do you any good and it will likely only make her want to draw closer to the OM. I made so many mistakes early on in this that I don't want you to make as well. Let her know what she's walking away from. GAL, take care of yourself, and do your best to be the more attractive option (and I don't mean appearance, as women generally don't value that). Good luck.
