my suggestions of what has worked for me...get yourself healthy, mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually... work on you, take care of you. You deserve better... only you can give it to you.
He will either follow or not & even then the grieving can still be fresh & it will hurt. And that's ok, but it doesn't have to control you anymore than he does.
hugs & peace
Bridge
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
Taking the road less traveled because those encountered on the way may be just as unique.