Glad you had a good Christmas, all things considered.
I have a feeling that your dad's departure was magnified this year because of your situation even if neither of you realized that. I'm so glad you were there for her. You are each other's best support.
Can't wait to see the apartment. Sorry you are having to work today. I work my second job tonight but hopefully it won't be too busy since everyone should be on Christmas dinner overload!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Yes Mish, I am sure my situation magnified her feelings. Also the fact that he got married in August. Before that I guess she could just tell herself he was alone.
I had two vacation days I had to use and I decided to use them Monday and Tuesday. Now I am wishing I had used them today and next monday . It's not bad though, nobody is here and after a long lunch maybe I can sneak out of here early.
Hopefully your job will be as slow as mine today Mishka!
Hey everybody, thought I would check in. I haven't been on here in over a month. I think I was kind of getting in a rut and I was focusing too much on the D....so I just had to take a break.
I still haven't seen xh since September, but we did have a good talk over email. He told me he was sorry, he was a bad person...blah, blah, blah....but the good part was that I got some things off my chest. I no longer feel the anger towards him that I once did. The fact is, that despite how much I loved him, I am really much better off without him. He never had the drive for life or his career that I did and I feel like I have advanced so much farther without him. He is still stuck in that same "woe is me" place.
I am still dating the same guy and that is going really well. He gives me the space I need and he has his own things going on...so I am not constantly trying to entertain him and keep him happy as I did with xh.
I have started a new position at work and it comes with so many more responsibilities, but the days go quicker and I don't seem to dread going to work as much as I did when I started.
I have been working out like crazy and am finally back in a routine. I have dropped 15 lbs this month (....had started gaining weight after the D ), and I feel great.
All in all things are pretty good. I hope everyone is doing ok, I will have to take some time to catch up with all of you.
15lbs in ONE MONTH???????? How the heck did you do that? I know working out burns a ton of calories. What exactly are you doing? Did you completely change your diet too?
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Yep Mish, I completely changed my diet. I actually went to weight watchers. I've been eating a lot of fruits, vegetables, and protien. I have really been eating a lot, just not bad stuff like fast food and greasy fried food. I can't even tell you how much better I feel.
I guess I decided to obsess about my diet/excersise rather than my D/xh.