Thanks for the thoughts on "other people who know" stuff, T24now. I'll use some of that.
I think, aside from the xOW in the workplace problem, the hardest is with my family. Being biased, they are taking an attitude that they'll tolerate this reconcilliation, but mutter around that I should have kicked Wolfie to the curb and that I'm too good for him, so why am I giving him a second chance. Sigh....
Anyway, it was a good weekend. We mostly just hung out, went to a movie, finished school shopping for S16.
I never did bring up the issue of what his concerns might be about moving home.
In fact, I only brought up one R talk thing. At one point, I asked him if he'd ever thought about being grateful or relieved that I didn't give up on him. {{and, no I didn't say it with any blame or sarcasm in my voice--just damn curious to know if the thought had ever crossed his brain waves at any time.}}
"Sure!" he said, "I thought I told you that."
"Nope", says me.
"HMMMMM...!" says him, (as if to say--I think I forgot something important)
Yes, I admit it...I want the "I can't believe you put up with all my BS for the last year, you were SO patient with me. I am SO grateful that you didn't give up on me and fought for our R, and I'd rather roll over and die than ever risk loosing you again!" speach.
I may never get that, but--yeah I do admit that I'd like some amount of recognition and appreciation that I didn't kick him to the curb--treat him like he was a ghost, and some of the other things I've heard my more biased friends and family members say I shoulda done.
So anyway....I did bring it up in a way that he can chew on the thought for a while. I don't put him on the spot with questions very much, because I often get the bonehead "I'm still HERE, aren't I?" response if I don't give him time to think about what he wants to say.
