I said long ago that the decision to leave would be so easy if we were constantly fighting or there was some abusive language involved. When we went to counseling years ago the counselor was baffled as to why we were splitting up. We interact so well and do really love one another... the trouble is in the bedroom.... sigh.
Originally Posted By: Jayce
I can't imagine how hard your W has been working to stay away from any real conversation since you've been off work & she was home & D was at school every day.
I really think her running out and getting a job, any job, had more to do with avoiding the hard conversations I have been trying to have with her. That and it is a great excuse since she'll now be too tired for sex. She actually said, "Don't expect anything out of me, I'll be exhausted."
I may be wrong but the way that W and I interact we in all likelyhood would remain friends even after a split, if it comes to that. I even had a work buddy that had a relationship like that after his divorce. He still has dinner occasionally with his boys and ex-W. He even happily relocated to Pheonix when his ex-W's boyfriend's job moved there. My W said once, "You know if we were ever to split up that is how we would probably be."
Originally Posted By: RobD70
I know at first you'll think she'll be happy but once you pull back she will notice.
I had pulled back since about Christmas time. Our trouble is when I pull back we end up in the ML once every 3 months mode, which is totally unacceptable for me.
Don't worry about my falling into the A trap. Been there done that 7 years ago and it did cloud my opinion. This time this is about only W, Me and our M. She claims there is no resentment over anything but I am not sure that she is just unwilling to admit it. How do I know if she won't tell me what is on her mind? The dialog won't happen without pressure and until it happens we are stuck.
