Hi T2 & Tal, Yes you can both feel that way now and hold your help up high because H's are back with you-- For me, H isn't back and all three of us worked at the same gym until OW moved out of town--so most employees know about the A and they are all "nice" to me, but I can feel the "poor Pam" in their voices and I don't want their pity--I really don't want them to look at me as the wife who was cheated on--although I know it spins them around when H and I are together at the gym (that happened once recently)--and I'm sure OW found out--always those mouths and ears to "spy" for her since she's been gone! Oh well--but yes, when he comes back I think it will be easier to deal with the "whoknows" issue..but then there is that "they must think I"m stupid for taking him back" notion that I'm sure will need to be dealt with.!!!
