Wayward Wife/MLC or Just Bad Behavior

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Sandi2

why you would want a woman like you have decribed your W back into your life again. I wonder if it is kind of like an abused W who stays with her H? Is it b/c you do not feel that you deserve better or that is it b/c you got used to being treated like that?

I have thought about the abused spouse syndrome that you describe. Yes, with the role reversal, I am very much like the woman who gets kicked down the stairs, and refuses to have the cops haul the abuser off. The only difference in my situation is the abuse was verbal, emotional, and mental. Never had to deal with the physical. I think humans can convince themselves of anything. I may case "the deserve better" is definitely in play.

I knew the abortion was a huge breech of trust. Probably a deal breaker for most couples. Any respect went out of my operation years ago. Maybe I've rationalized it by thinking she can't respect me because she has zero respect for herself.

Again, I come for support and take every post seriously. The consensus amoung you is "cut your losses. Get rid of her. Heal (work on yourself) and continue to reconnect with family." Doing the best I can.