"{Step away from the situation as much as you can}"
I am doing my best not to be ensnared. I basically go to work, go home and sleep, and go to work again. Life is pretty one dimensional, but that is OK for now. About the only unsolicited call(s) I have received from HER concerned her needing money. Nice to pegged with the Johnny PayCheck roll.
I am absolutely shocked by HER behavior. That being said, you folks can look at it and say the signs, behavior, etc have always been there.
I am on this site for support also. My family is 2300 miles away. I allowed any potential friends to be stripped away years ago. Locally, I have no confidantes -- so these unbiased replies I get help immensely.
BS (me) 57 WW (her) 51 M - 27+ years Sons - 34/21 daugh - 32/26 D-day - (A#1 Apr 98) (A#2 Oct 08) Status - minimal contact (me) living with OM (her) Divorce - Scheduled for Apr 09