My 2 cents worth on the "people who know" issue. I worried about that quite a bit until one day it dawned on me...Hey wait a damn minute, I haven't got anything to be ashamed of or embarrassed about. I haven't cheated on my spouse, I'm not the woman that was so inept at finding a single man that I settled for the crumbs of some other woman's life. I don't have to sneak around and be gossiped about behind my back because I'm doing something morally reprehensible. And ZAP...all discomfort about "who knows, who's talking" went up in a puff of smoke. So NOW when my H and I go somewhere that I'm nervous we may 'see' someone who "knows" I hold my head high and think to myself as "they're giving me those 'knowing looks'...That's right ladies and gents, he's here with his W...the ONE he's still with, the one he still loves, the one HE'LL always want in his life even IF someday I decide he can NO longer have ME."
I turn it around on "them"....and it makes me feel stronger. T2
