Wow! After reading that I don't think you should feel guilty for filing, and I don't think that your decision to file is what's stopping reconciliation. It's your H's decision to cheat and continue cheating that's stopping reconciliation. Don't let him put the blame on you. My W tries that crap every now and then (I didn't file, but she says that I made her feel like our home wasn't hers because I had friends over after she moved out--what a load of BS!). When she tries to pull crap like that I remind her that it was she that moved out and said she wanted a divorce (one week after we bought our 1st home, mind you). They just don't want to take responsibility for the pain and damage they've done. Everyone wants to think they're the good guy. I think it's intolerable that your H continues this relationship with another MARRIED women. You need to set some real boundaries--he should not be able to call you when he can't talk to her. Don't take his calls. Show him that you know you are worth far more than that. Self respect is key here. I think for you the end will come when you set some real boundaries. You have to take control of this one.
