Can Two Alphas Live Together?

[sage]

Ok---we've put four kids through high school, and EVERY year the school year starts within a day or two after Labor Day. Furthermore, as H was giving me his "explanation" he was stuttering and avoiding my eyes. When he did look me in the eye, I'm sorry to say, I KNEW he was being untruthful and he KNEW that I knew that he was being untruthful. There was an ackward silence for quite a few minutes, then he changed the subject.

I'm so discouraged and saddened. After all of the talk about how we need to clearly communicate and give each other the opportunity to know what we are asking for...

What do you think h is afraid to say?

Is there a gentle way to let him know that you're ok with hearing anything he can express (assuming that you are) -- including fear or ambivalence or ???? about moving home?

I don't think you have to wait until "next time". I think there would be a way to use this as a springboard...for him to open up to you about "scary" stuff and for you to hear it....

Sage