I snooped for a bit in the earlier and stopped after a while as I would find myself doing it when in an ok mood, then finding something and it could of been next to nothing, that would set the old head going again.
By getting evidence, I didn't really say it very well. I mean, ignore it til something is clear and the decide what you do with that information. Innocent until proven guilty and all that.
You sound positive bro. That's the way to be. Accept your getting divorced and work on that basis and anything else is a bonus. At worst, to be able to be polite and friendly with your ex is essential for the kids.
