HI Tal,

That does sound like a pretty lame excuse...and I KNOW you can read his body language.

Sooooo....I DO have some insights here...perhaps for some reason he is not able to share, maybe HE can't even access it or verbalize it...H is a little scared of the big move.

So he wants more time than agreed upon. Would you agree so far?

Question is, why didn't he come to you, in the spirit of your better communication and tell you this?

I can think of a few reasons:

1) he's a procrastinator and just hoped you wouldn't "notice" and it would all just fall into place

2) he was afraid of how you would react...

my money is on #2... or perhaps a combination of both.

Here's a strange example from I think early March of this year. I found out about OW AGAIN...he ended contact (for REAL)...but then I got on his e-mail (not trusting it was over...he gave me the password).

Well, a couple of suspicious messages were in his inbox...now Tal, he KNEW these were women from his chat-room days. Not OW, just women he wrote to, flirted with I'm sure. Turns out he helped one to avoid suicide!

But what did he say when I asked about those messages? He LIED...to my FACE...AGAIN!!! He almost pushed me out of the chair to delete them, saying it was junk mail...which it was NOT.

After things settled down, I asked him WHY in the world didn't he just say what they were instead of LYING again???

He said he didn't know, that it just came out to protect himself, that he thought that I might freak out and end it for good!!!

So....Yes, weirdness and backsteps ARE part of this journey.

Tell me Tal...how WOULD you have responded if H said he felt he needed a few more weeks???

Shiny