Thanks Pam. I sure appreciate everyone's feedback.
I guess if I were to really dig deep about how his behaviour makes me feel, it is more than a trust problem in general. I feel like H is playing a passive-agressive control game with me. I have felt like that all along through this separation.
"Accept the things you cannot change", right? It would be unreasonable for me to expect all of our old patterns to be erased, all weapons melted down into scrap. I can hope that this is an area that will improve over time.
