Hi Tal, Glad to see you are ok!!! Now regarding your venting!
Quote: His not honoring our agreement is a big deal to me, because it really causes me to distrust his word, reminds me that after a major betrayal (having an A) he's got some credibility issues with me, and feels like I'm being discounted, taken for granted, and disrespected.
I think saying what you said right here is how you need to explain it to your H, perhaps in the company of MC so that you have a mediator to help keep the scales balanced. Focus on how you feel..."when this happens, I feel..." not "when YOU do this, you make me feel..." I think not going into this yesterday when you were heated already was a good choice and shows growth! You may also want to preface the conversation by saying, "I need to bring this up for my own well-being, I'm not attacking you and my intention is not for you to become defensive, but I'm afraid that you might. I need for you to understand some things that I am feeling..."
Hope that helps!! Don't push too hard--maybe ask him a bit more as to why mid-september is the new time frame to him-perhaps there is a legitimate reason for this or combination of reasons (some legit and others not)...
hang in there-you're doing great and showing great strength!!! You can do this, you're in the home stretch--well at least rounding 2nd!
