OM is an intersting cat. Divorced because he came home from work at lunch and his wife and some guy were hard at it in his bed. So I think that is where his remorse over this comes from. He didn't want to be part of something like that. Whatever. I can't stop or control anything anyway. I hear what your saying. But I've done what I can. Asking for a letter at this point would be a deal breaker, more control. She had a controlling Dad and has always rebelled as a result of it. One of her own issues she has to deal with.
The trust has to be earned both ways.
She did agree to stay within the marriage as we are attempting clear out the junk. I said I would lose all respect for her if she couldn't keep that comittment as long as we are married and she gave me her word. I asked her for no guarantees other than focusing on working on ourselves and getting rid of our junk in the marriage. That is the only point of the separation.
She's not necessarily fleeing from me. I know her and she needs the time to get back to normal and out of this hyper-anxiety state we are both in.
This will either move us forward or allow us both to see it ain't coming back. #1 is the best option. BUt I can live with #2 if I know I did every thing I could.
Jeff
***Getting up every day and learning to breathe in a new me. For me and my children***
Me: 43 W: 38 SD-15 S(s): 12,9,7 Separated-2/14/2009 My sitch
