My thoughts are that I'm glad she's opening up to you, but I still don't trust her. And I DAMNED sure don't trust OM.
I have never . . . EVER . . . heard of an OM/OW who did the honorable thing. They are not people of honor -- by definition. They are predators.
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I said if she would committ to two things I woulds separate: 1. That during the process we committ to not opening ourselves to ANY other realtionships. That we were separating for the purpose of space and to get rid of all of the junk in our marriage so we can grow and reconnect in a healthy way. What I could not support was separating to give the opportunity to nuture R with OM. She got that.
She may have "got" that, but did she AGREE to it? Is she willing to send the guy a no-contact letter -- copy to be approved by you -- and be transparent with you?
Sorry to pee in your Cheerios, but I still smell a rat. If she truly believes she made a mistake, she should be fleeing TOWARDS you -- not AWAY from you. That would be a more typical female response.
