I may repeat something some others have said b/c I kind of scanned over the posts. It is hard for any of us to know why you would want a woman like you have decribed your W back into your life again. I wonder if it is kind of like an abused W who stays with her H? Is it b/c you do not feel that you deserve better or that is it b/c you got used to being treated like that? Maybe you can't even answer the question, but the point is that you DO deserve much better.
I don't know where you got 6 months for a WW to come out of this mode, but sweetie, I'm afraid it doesn't work like that. In fact, outside of a miracle or a terrible circumstance to knock the living daylights out of her, I'm afraid she may continue to stay in the state or for a very long time at any rate. I regret that I cannot be more encouraging, but frankly I feel that you have wasted too much of your life on her as it is. When she took that child across state lines to have an abortion without your knowledge, that is when you should have taken action right then. I am afraid she not only disrepects you, but that she will never listen to anything you have to say. I don't usually tell people right off the bat to hit the D court, but I think my vote has to go with the others and say that you would be better off. I'm sorry if that is not good DBing, but it is just good sense.
Take care of yourself, Sandi2
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
