Sitch in a nutshell: H & I friends for 22 years Together for 9 (common law) Two boys each (blended family) S#1 24, S#2 21, S#3 19, and S#4 16
H withdrew (mentally, emotionally & physically) about 2 years ago--very depressed and irritable--lot's of the signs of a classic MLC. H begins an EA with co-worker 11/02 EA becomes PA early 1/03 I confront, H says he thinks he wants out of R. We separate, but begin to reconcile.
Individual C and MC and what I have picked up reading DB and reading the stories of other DBers here has been a lot of help.
H & I have agreed on a timeframe (early Sept.) for him to come home, but lots of work ahead.