1. The be a parent to her comment -- truthfully, there have been times like I was put in that role; daddy to a 51 year old woman.
2. I know that only an alcoholic can decide to fight the alcohol
As you both probably understand, I had a long history with this woman. Over the years, I allowed myself to be conditioned to overlook bad situations and learned to rationalize them away.
I am slow coming to the conclusion that most people look at the horror story I've detailed and say, "Run, Forrest, Run!!" and right now I feel and am acting a lot like Forrest.
Thanks for your comments, they help.
BS (me) 57 WW (her) 51 M - 27+ years Sons - 34/21 daugh - 32/26 D-day - (A#1 Apr 98) (A#2 Oct 08) Status - minimal contact (me) living with OM (her) Divorce - Scheduled for Apr 09