The truth is I think OW is tacky and not sensitive or she wouldn't have done that. But she is tacky and insensitive so she acts that way and I shouldn't expect any differently. Probably most OP I'm thinking are like that; that's the kind of people that have affairs when they are married with married people!!!
I did talk to the L. She said OW's H sounds very bitter. She didn't say that much accept I guess her H does have more knowledge of all their trips and my H spending money on them. Well, I kind of figured that b/c he put most of our bills on credit card this past year, so you have to figure the money went somewhere. Also, he confirmed he is her 3rd husband and he is an L also. He said apparently OW is a lot like my H: self-absorbed, selfish type which I had heard from others. He also said he apparently had been a successful attorney so the past year or 2 he had gone into solo practice not making much money. I'm guessing that helped make my H who's prob. making twice his salary much more attractive. He's been married to her for 8 years and she had 2 marriages before that!!! She's about 43 or 44 also. I think her H is just wanting copies of the depo and hearing where he admits to the affair as apparently I guess she wouldn't admit to it in her court stuff. And I'm fine with that. He may be able to help me out more than I can help him. My L is saying he may be a witness for me, and an L so he would probably make a good one. Karen
