I have been thinking it over and I am not going to be that safety net. He said in our last meeting he had his own credit card now. Why should I be lending him the money to pay for the tax on his new flat - especially as he is selling this house at the moment. I have lent him money for the new car, agreed to the mortgage break for a while; I don't think I could have been more amenable.
Why can't he ask his girlfriend?? I will think of a tactful way to say nope. I am not a pushover and I don't think I am unreasonable I am however bad at saying no
As that card has joint debt on it I can't close it - we will pay it off with the proceeds of the house but it is primarily in my name so that debt is in my name. I think Jeff said it right his problems are his problems, if he wanted my support he could have stayed married to me then he would have had it unconditionally.
Anyway enough ranting
The house is on the market now and there are loads of viewings which is good and bad. It means I am going to have to start making plans and decisions for my future, basically where to live!
H has been in contact a lot - practically every day asking questions about house stuff. I haven't initiated, I am finding it hard to fathom communicating with him at the moment but I am being polite and answering at different times, sometimes waiting sometimes not. He usually answers straight away but his texts are very unemotional and it is just house stuff.
Having people looking round my house is quite hard. I have created an island for myself here and it is being invaded! Other than that I have my oldest best friend staying at the moment which is really nice and am enjoying life.
I so appreciate your help, it is hard to know if I am letting anger or resentment cloud my judgement. I know I sound quite hard at the moment, but then part of me wants to be nice as that is my instinct.
