I didn't think it would happen to us either. I guess I've learned that it wasn't just a lack of morals "flaw" with my first H.
I guess I was also very naive and thought that because I had experienced such terrible drama the first time, and because I knew my second H and he knew my situation it would not happen to us.
I still wonder what part my illness played.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.