I would also say that in addition to the DB book, the Not Just Friends book is a wealth of information and support. Both books have helped me to survive the past year.
In most instances, the way that your wife is behaving would seem to indicate that there has probably already been a physical relationship. Not something that you want to think about... but guilt can be a very powerful but also predictable emotion.
If you have the time, in addition to reading the just friends book, please read the sitch of some of those who have been posting to you. There is hope. You are among experienced friends.
I vote for confrontation. It won't be easy, but it's what I would/did do.
Last edited by 1hope; 01/26/0909:06 PM.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
