When the bubble bursts in our favor !

[missmyfriend]

First, I want to wish you an early HAPPY BIRTHDAY Cinders!!!!

Second, it is hard to let go Cinders. I know because you and I are so much alike. Our spouses aren't but you and I are. We want the family together. We want our happy ending. And who knows, we may just get it.

Cinders, I think you and I need to learn to balance loving our spouses from a distance, i.e. to be loving but not expecting. They have their own lives, their own "other people" and relationships with our children that is separate from us.

They can never miss us if we are always available. Sometimes the best way to show someone you love them is to let them go completely. No expectations. No involvement. No special time together.

If there is a chance they will miss us, it certainly won't be if we are always around and available.

I need to make myself less available to my W (ex).

You are doing marvelous and don't beat up on yourself for not always doing the things that you think would help him return home. You shouldn't have to be doing anything different at all because he should be at home focusing on you and the kids. Fortunately for him and your children, you are an amazing woman with such strength and love for your family not to mention a great faith that is obvious. Hang in there. If he is a man of any substance, he will someday wake up and will ask for forgiveness.

mmf