Ask yourself, do you really want her back? She has been in and out of this for 10 years, have you seen her resemble the person you feel in love with during this time? kat
I struggle with this question. I know all the reasons why I should not even remotely consider that taking back option. Unfortunately, in times of weakness I entertain the fantasy should the option present itself. She no more resembles the person I met decades ago than the man on the moon. She is currently invalidating any and all the values/beliefs she gave lip service to. [/quote]
Fitz,
I get this. COMPLETELY. We ALL have to weigh carefully how much we still love the person we see now, in their "fogged out" state, versus the one we married. I GET that.
But "decades"???? My question for you, is your image of what you want this woman to be the aberration, or is her recent behavior?
