Wayward Wife/MLC or Just Bad Behavior

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kat727

1. I told her I would not tolerate the behavior. She told me she would what she wanted when she wanted. I felt like I was dealing with an 8 year old.

2. She works, but it is a dead end, low paying state job.

3. I've had 4 months to shift the focus to me. Initially I was on the affair diet -- lost 35 pounds in 4 weeks. They ought to market it on TV. Found a support group, saw a counselor, got issued anti-depressant (first time in my life taking a happy pill). Actually was able to repair some badly damaged relationships with my adult children.

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Ask yourself, do you really want her back? She has been in and out of this for 10 years, have you seen her resemble the person you feel in love with during this time?
kat

I struggle with this question. I know all the reasons why I should not even remotely consider that taking back option. Unfortunately, in times of weakness I entertain the fantasy should the option present itself. She no more resembles the person I met decades ago than the man on the moon. She is currently invalidating any and all the values/beliefs she gave lip service to.

Keep the questions/comments coming. I am trying to work through this.