I understand the selfishness factor too. I feel constant guilt over doing things just for me. I end up leaving my invalid mother and my autistic son at home to fend for themselves while I go have a life of my own for a few hours. My son could care less, but I do. My mom, on the other hand, is the all-time points leader in laying guilt trips!
Like doctors always say to those who sit bedside with a sick person, you will be doing them no good if you don't take care of yourself and get healthy. Same thing with emotional wellbeing.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!