I know sweetie, I know. They have no idea how the anniversary dates of these things hurt us.

My H asked me why the memories were bothering me so much this weekend. He says he is here, tells me that he is sorry, it won't happen again etc.

I finally, calmly asked him how HE would feel if I had been the one doing all those sexual things with one of his friends.

I think he finally understood then.

True forgiveness will have to come whether or not they help or make it easy for us. That has to come from us, without any resentment.

I know, I am still working on it.

Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.

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