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[hoosiermama]

I just expected this thread to lock!

So, over the weekend, H had D overnight on Friday, which was unusual. He has not yet wanted her on a weekend. As it turns out, H and D had dinner at OW's daughter's house.

D was not supposed to have to deal with OW until the end of the school year. H never mentioned it to me, never advised me about it later. I wouldn't have known except that D told me about it.

I am absolutely livid. D should not have to deal with OW at all, let alone be stuck at dinner with her. She shouldn't have to make friends with this woman she knows broke her family apart. She shouldn't have to be influenced by someone with clearly different values than what I've tried to raise her with. And there's not a thing I can do about it. We tried to insert it in the temporary agreement, but it's not binding and I imagine his L advised him about that; in fact, it's illegal even to mention the pagan princess by name! Heaven forbid she'd lose any of her rights!

I don't know how D feels about it--she is clammed up. She wanted me to know, clearly, but then wouldn't talk about it. So I imagine this will now be a regular thing, she'll now be a part of D's life. So since we're still setting up mediation, I intend to clamp down on the flexibility and frequency of visitation. This is absurd.