Drinking problem, her mother has one, her father had one, cost them their marriage on top of her pounding the crap out of her.
I am a firm believer that how our parents lived out their marriages plays a part in all this in our situations.
Kudos on up and leaving to cool out, that's something I know I wouldn't ahve been able to do. I remember back in September when I had a b-day party for my "renter", W came over and acted the same way, going through everything like all was peechy w/us an deven went so far as to clean the basememt bathroom!
I don't know my friend. Your W seems to have her issues, and being tanked all the time is going to catch up with her soon enough.
But like you said, and I've said, let OM deal with the party girl, I know I don't want to.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11