Hey guys thanks for the input. Although this is post DB stuff, it at least shows the struggles that one may have to move on. There are a couple of theories here that have been sent my way that try to explain my reluctance or inability to be totally content with the women that I am meeting. Theory number one is that my stbxw is not totally out of my system. Although I can verbalize it and do not think there is a chance in hell that we can get back together and stay together, maybe subconsciously, I am still hoping. Theory number two is that i am still healing and that i do not want to get hurt. Now if that were the case I would not even initiate contact. Finally theory number three is that I do not want to hurt someone else and therefore need to be absolutelly sure of the viability of the potential relationship.
