LOL!! yes i touched him omg it was fabulous!! it embarressed my D and H tho hehehehe!
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
Morning Hope. On like my 10th cup of coffee trying to catch up with everyone.
Ok don't worry about getting back to me on the stuff, just help our friend, be there when she needs it. You know what I mean. I'm gonna kidnap her one of these days. LOL...
Ok on the OW front, here is my thoughts, not gonna be of popular opinion but... We dont' have a clue what the H's have told them. We don't know what the OW intentions are or the H's and know what, they probably don't either. I will tell you from my own experience, a "friend" of ours spilled his guts to me for years about his W. About their sex life, their personal life and what not. Boy did I feel sorry for him. Guess what, his whole intention was to get into my pants. He didn't care what he was doing. If I had been a different person, M or not, who knows what would have happened. If I wanted to now I could still have a little "fun" and what would it hurt? So please understand what I say here. It is not all the OP fault. It just isn't. I posted a while back about what I learned from the OW in my sitch. Yes I learned and yes it hurt. And YES it is much easier to blame them than STBXH. But I have to look at them too and say I don't know what he was looking for or needing. I dont' know what he told them. I just don't know but at that point in time, they did provide SOMETHING to him that I either wasn't or couldn't and they were there for him to fill whatever need he was having. So I can and will only hold them as responsible as I hold STBXH and self.
I can also understand how it can happen. You aren't looking for it usually, but you find a friend, and your heart sort of steps in sometimes. Sorry for the defense of the OP but been on both sides and just know the truth of it.
If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.
mornin hope omg its cold!! it was minus 12 with the wind chill. hope you arent freezing. yee haw kel came out to play hehehe! I needed to read her words to as usual! hope you had a great nite last nite! love ya
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
Two Wolves One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside all people. He said, 'My son, the battle is between two 'wolves' inside us all.
One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.
The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.'
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: 'Which wolf wins?'
The old Cherokee simply replied, 'The one you feed.'
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
Morning all! It is 0 here this morning. BEFORE windchill. My feet are cold underneath my desk.
Hope that everyone had a peaceful and warm weekend. I know that it seemed to fly by.
Thanks for the posts ladies. Kel, I appreciate (as always) your point of view. I hold them both accountable, I guess it's just anger at her that I am feeling as more and more of the little details of their PA seep out. He was ripe for the picking, but she pretty much stalked him. Used our friendship as a cover and my cancer recouperation as an excuse to come to our house and contact me etc. My disgust with her is not as just an OW, but someone that abused my friendship. There is a lot more to her and her narcissistic, destructive nature. Since my H, she has moved on, and is doing things (and not doing things) that place her beautiful children straight in harms way. It's only a matter of time.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
OH MY GOSH! That is cold. My heat can't keep up right now with the door opening! BRRRRR. We are now under a winter storm warning for sleet and freezing rain from this afternoon until Tuesday night! YUCK!
Thanks for the good thoughts and prayers! I do appreciate them! Take care and stay warm! If that is possible.
