(((hugs))). I know the drinking is hard. Especially for us non-drinkers. But his behavior...there is no understanding it. It's not what a rational, sober, sane thinking person would do. And since most of us lean more to that side than the other side, I imagine it is very hard for any of us to understand or predict.
I do think he loves you and the kids. I imagine he feels a lot of guilt about why he has chosen the things he has. Maybe he even feels guilty about not being strong enough to change. Maybe his thinking is "I'm not strong enough to be what she needs, so I will do her the favor of giving her a D, so that she can find what she really deserves." But who really knows?? Maybe he is just that wrapped up in OW.
I still think it is just hard to understand anyone under the drinking fog. All they are really worried about is when the next drink is coming.
Good luck!
Mel
"Standing knee deep in a river and dying of thirst."
