PT, you said your w confessed to an EA, correct? But did she kind of know you'd try to understand or did you tell her you'd leave if it were true?
No, I never told her that. When she first started acting distant, in mid-May '07, I asked her to meet me for lunch and I asked her if there was anyone else. She denied it -- twice -- looking me dead in the eye both times. I now know it was at LEAST an EA already at that point. The only thing I remember that I did say to her was something like "Well, I would certainly hope that you would respect me enough, after all we've been thru together in the past 22 years, to at least tell me the truth. In fact, I would insist on as much." Or something like that. That was when she reiterated for the 2nd time that there was no one else, and that she was telling me the truth.
But I never told her I would leave her if there was, nor did I tell her that I would STAY if there was.
