J, thanks for the input. I will call base legal tomorrow and ask them about the help. He had gone out there last August and was happy to tell me that they won't take me (same reasons you cited) and that is fine. I'd rather find a low-down dirty snake in the grass, anyway, if you know what I mean. Last night when he brought the kids (after he had talked to MIL and BIL) he wanted to say something, but I cut him off, said "YA'LL have a good night" and shut the door loudly in his face and locked it and bolted the chain. Then the kids and I laid on the floor and watched Cars. Today we went and saw hotel for dogs and it was good. We all had a good time.
Talked to S13. OW is driving him crazy cause she pushes him around. Amazing how H will allow that. I told S13 to tell her to go get bent. She can bring her own stuff in from the car. Probably not a great idea, but he does not have to take her stuff either. H wants to believe S13 likes her okay, but know from what he said that he hates her for the most part. Which makes the 4 year old in me feel great.
H was already in USAF when we married. So. We have been married 13.5 years (will be 14 in August) and he hit his 15 year mark in December. So either 13 or 14 years out of the 20 he will have been in. Not sure how to do the calcs.
I did tell MIL that I would always keep the kids in contact with her. Heck, I wouldn't even mind going to visit them for a few days. I really do love them a lot. She was totally dirt poor growing up, so she overcompensated for H when he was little and even now. I can understand that, but at the same time, come on. She loves my kids to no end and that is heartwarming, because I don't always feel like my parents do.
Sometimes it amazes me that I still want to be married to this man. WTH is WRONG WITH ME????
Okay. So. Tomorrow. Call base legal tomorrow morning and make 100% sure that he wasn't lying to me. Call some Ls I know, including the one that is a snake. Then I have a C appt tomorrow afternoon. This is going to eat up my hour, but the USAF is paying for it so... I'll my 12 copay and go on down the road.
Trying to debate whether to call MIL or not. Feel like I shouldn't, that she would call me if she needed to, but at the same time...I can't help it. I'm curious. I imagine he told her not to call me anymore though.
J, do you really think, NOT to ask for a no-contact order? I don't want him to get in trouble-trouble, I just want her out of my house until we are divorced. The house is still in my name. We are still married. She is married to someone else. Lastly, they are both kind of same career field. She is cop. He is combat arms. She tried to cross-train to combat arms this month but they declined her and told her she could go K9 instead. It was her second choice, but she didn't think she would get it. LMAO. So now she either has to take K9 or get forced out in July. And so, H says she is separating in July. Who would not want to work with dawgs??? Her H is back in Hawaii taking care of her two kids, one of which is hers. MIL says she was complaining about how controlling he was and I imagine they will D and she will just continue to live with H until she...prolly gets pregnant and convinces him to marry her. who knows? she was supposed to go TDY in October. Didn't because she pees all over herself. And still hasn't gone to pick up her kids from Hawaii. I'm biting my tongue. H has always managed to get himself involved with trash. Sometimes he's just like a trash-magnet or something.
Reminds me...once he brought home people from the bar that he did not know from Adam. It was 12 at night and they go home and get their D19 before coming over to our house. He wakes me up and tells me to come see these great people he found at the bar. And then their D19 proceeds to tell us all about the time she got raped by her boyfriend's dad. Did I mention he was attracted to trash??
Will wait til I see you on again and then will post some contact info. I don't know anyone on here and don't even know how to begin to put out that info. Will figure out something next time I see you on. I will try to stay on tonight and watch for you.
Okay.
Points made.
Will let ya'll know how it goes tomorrow.
Mel
"Standing knee deep in a river and dying of thirst."
Last night when he brought the kids (after he had talked to MIL and BIL) he wanted to say something, but I cut him off, said "YA'LL have a good night" and shut the door loudly in his face and locked it and bolted the chain. Then the kids and I laid on the floor and watched Cars. Today we went and saw hotel for dogs and it was good. We all had a good time. 
