I am on this site off and on, and would appreciate any insight.
My sitch:
March 2009 will be 4 years separated; married for 18 years total. H is 48 and I just turned 46. We have a D16 and S13. OW is 19 years younger than H. They work together. What a shock! H's A started a few months before he moved out. I think he spends his time during the work-week at her apt. (she lives near his work, about 45 miles away), and he has an apt. near us. I think part of why this has gone on so long is because "she" has never met our kids, and they seem to have a part-time relationship.
He pays child support, which has never been increased in almost 4 years. I am at the point where I need more money. I'm sure he has received at least one raise since he left, despite his denial of this. I have tried to talk to him a few times over the last few weeks about our financial situation, but he never comments.
If I set a court hearing to modify the support, will that piss him off, and possible drive him to file for D? He filed for a S when he first left, not a D.
On the other hand, maybe he needs to feel more financial consequences, to help him face reality? I'm torn because I don't want to make him mad; I feel like I'm enabling him; I'm not sure I should force him to have financial consequences, yet I'm making it too easy on him.
Please help. I know my first priority should be to take care of the kids and myself...
