Mandy, the hell with him! These people just think they can hurt everyone for as long as they want and then expect us to do all the repairs after its over. I wouldn't let that guy wipe my shoes.
Have to agree with BH here.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
just popping in to say nothings new, just another month over all is dead quiet again, dont know if ex has fallen off the end of the earth and quite frankly dont care. do know that the girl that is in out old home renting it from them is supposed to be her niece, so thats nice to know put your only child out on the streets to let a relative of hers have it. another item that wont work out for them i suspect, this girl is only in her late teens and is pregnant, wanted to get a mortgage but bank wont give her one so she is renting until they do, get real if it is her niece her father is next door to being a millionare I think he would have helped her out, I dont personally believe it is her niece I think it is the daughter of the couple that used to have the pub they go in, and that spells disaster, anyhow not my problem, just saying that they continue to lie in their sad little life, oh and he told his auntie that he sent gifts to son for xmas, no he didnt, what a life having to lie to like yourself
But you are the winner in all of this as you have your Son, and your X has nothing.
I do think however you giv e him way to much head space and he is so not worth it.
Maybe you should tell whomever it is that is giving you these updates on him that you no longer want to know any details about his life or about the OW.
It will much your life much less complicated.
Have a blessed day today!!!
((((hugs))))
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
Mandy, there is no hope for this person. He is living a lie about everything, especally his son. I wish I could tell you something that would help the both of you, but there isn't anything. I as a kid, went through the same kind of thing with y father. He threw us all down and went off with his "true love" As a result of his actions, I don't have any type of relationship with him to this day. He will call from time to time and he does all the talking, I don't really have anything to say to him and it wouldn't bother me if he never called me again. I suspect that it will be the same with your son. Best thing you can do is move on with your life, make things the best that you can for your son, explain to him that you have not prevented his father from seeing him, that it was his choice not to do so. All the best to you and your son.
I thank you for your replies, bnd, yes I supposed in a way I do still give ex head space but not as much as I used to , and in a way I dont give him that much at all, just like to post on here now and again as an update to myself and so my post doesnt get lost. Braveheart, my son knows that I havent stopped his father in any way shape or form from seeing him or talking to him in fact he knows i have done the opposite to no avail, I have tried getting son to see his dad and I also offered my hand of friendship to his father to see if that would ease the problem of them not communicating, it didnt get accepted by ex so as it goes it is still stale mate for the two of them, but I do agree ex is the loser in all this, and he will reap what he as sown
It's been awhile, and I wondered how things were going with you. Your ex is such a dufus! He will be so sorry one day, but that's not your problem anymore, if it ever was.
Take care.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Unfortunately, there is no help for these MLCers unless they recognise it themselves. It is just such a pitty that your son has to grow up without his father being in his life.
Hi everyone, just popping in to say I think it is time for me to stop visiting this site, I feel there is nothing going to be happening at all in my sitch, I think it is all done and dusted, ex walked away, kicked us out on the streets, doesnt have contact with his son and hasnt for two years now contacted me, i think it is time to forget the man i was in love with all those years it seems he must be happy with the new life he as made with his wifey and minus myself and most important of all his son. it appears that the grass must have been greener over there after all. I wish you all the best in your sitchs and hope everything turns out well for you all may you all get your dreams and desires, me, i will get on with my life and provide a happy and loving environment for my son, i have wasted too much time over my ex, what is done is done and there is no going back now, so its time to stop thinking about what could have been, its time to stop hoping and praying that ex will contact son, it as gone on too long now and i dont ever see them having a relationship again, ex as been gone 4 years and there is no improvement in the sitch, so i bid you all farewell and only hope the best for you all, much love and thanks for your support, please take care each and everyone of you, xxxxx
