If my W cheated it is over. What I actually think is my W cheated and realized what a mistake it was and was ending it with OM. Remember this is what I think. Anyway she hasn't had contact or talked with OM since the night I found the text messages. She has even cut off ties with his wife, which had been her friend for 16 yrs. The problem is I can't seem to get over it and it has made our marriage UP and Down.......I'm all good for 2 or 3 weeks and then boooom something goes off in me and I just start with all the questioning all over again. I think she's real Sorry and ashamed. I just can't let it go. Just the thoughts of her with him drives me crazy, but she still says she never met up with him. We got in a huge arguement the other night and I called her a whore. She back handed me when she got in the car and I DID deserve it. I just didn't mean to say that. Now she's been real cold and quiet towards me. My coach told me it'll take a while for her to calm down about the whole name calling. For now I'm trying to work my issue of letting go of the past and moving on. Because I Love my Wife. That's what makes it hard to let go though. I know to save my M and have a great future I have to let go and move on. If I don't then I may ruin my M. If she did cheat and actually told me I really don't have the answer? I'm sure she thinks I would leave so it's better for her to take my crap rather then watch me walk.
