You instincts are good. You pretty much sized me up perfectly.
A month ago she asked to work on the friendship (which I would kill for right now) but I did all the wrong things. Pursued, begged, pleaded, ect. and pushed her into the EA which she says was just a friendship at the time. Wish I knew about DBing a month ago!
So know the friendship bloomed and became an EA which in her fog she is mistaking for love. He has now made a different choice. Except for the fact that after I confronted her yesterday she called him last night. 20 min convo so I dunno what it was about. maybe letting him know that I know now..Who knows?
She had a lot of compassion..At least I think so. She says it was how I treated her AFTER the EA came out that killed it for her. She is a believer in "when I'm done I'm done and I don't come back." I think its BS.
I took my relationship for granted and let her carry the emotional load for the family. I was not a great guy a lot. And she feels that the marriage wasn't very good for 14 years. I don't agree with all of it but she is right about most. i own that. I definitely was self-centered and it was always about me.
So now I have confronted..She went to her girlfriends house for the second night in a row.
I don't know what will happen next and I have no plan...Aghhhh!
Jeff
***Getting up every day and learning to breathe in a new me. For me and my children***
Me: 43 W: 38 SD-15 S(s): 12,9,7 Separated-2/14/2009 My sitch
