I agree. Time will tell. He told me the other night he has a hard time talking to me and he doesn't know why b/c we used to talk together so easily/often.
I told him that when he started pulling away from me and pouring himself into another person, he naturally stopped talking to me, sharing with me, etc. That he would have to CHOOSE to talk to me and share with me again. He said that made a lot of sense...
Anyway I told him all I want from him is the truth even if it does hurt me, it is better than not knowing what he is thinking. I told him that I would rather hear "I want a divorce", than to hear "It could be a rental, I want to try to work things out", etc. only to find out later he was planning to stay gone all along.
He said last night "I WANT to be with you, I want us to be together, that is why i said I don't want to file or get a divorce. I just have to figure out how to stop holding things against you, how to let go of some stuff and forgive and learn to trust in us...."
So that is why we told Nathan we want to work this out. But we also told him we didn't know if we could. I ran that past two counselors and both said it was ok to say we weren't sure the outcome yet. They agreed that if we KNEW it was a done deal, to say so. But if we didn't, then it was ok to say we were going to try and see what happens...
