Did the compassion she had for you (or did she have any?) help you feel good about staying in the marriage or not? Were there nights she ended up keeping the kids while you were with OW, unbeknownst to her?
I don't know quite where I am going with this. The drug had worn off for me, too, when I decided I wanted to make it work. But H had changed his mind by then. Which he is perfectly entitled to. Except that now he wants to crucify me for the A and he is doing exactly what I did. I am trying to have compassion. He is choosing it out of spite, though and I don't think your wife is choosing it out of spite.
You sound like a strong type a personality who is used to getting what he wants. Maybe I'm wrong. Would your wife say she felt like there was equal partnership in the marriage? My H would say we are partners, but no, because what he wants/needs always counts just a little bit more than i want/need.
What does she say about why things "went wrong"?
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"Standing knee deep in a river and dying of thirst."
