Ellen....got it. NO more. But...this was a boundary. I wouldn't change that. It wasn't pancakes...it was being walked on. Today..three packages came in and I was expecting them. I opened them all. To my regret, I realized that one that I opened was my W's passport. Truly honest mistake. I put it back and wrote a note that I was sorry that I opened it by accident.
No go. She called me and tore me a second 'a-hole' over the phone and hung up on me. I committed a federal offense.
This morning, she went nuts when I told her that I was going away with the kids for 5 days over winter break. I had told her that I planned on doing this months ago. She denied it and thought I was only going to go away the weekend before my birthday.
Not. In fact, I am bringing them back early so that she can have a weekend with them. She stormed out...dropped my son off at a party...and within 30 minutes had a weekend getaway planned to the Bahamas on JetBlue and booked thru Monday, the 23rd, my birthday.
It's no problem with me. My L only told me have it written in paper....where she was staying, contact, dates, etc...and that my stuff is put down too so she can't stop MY vacation. I have one other requirement tho'....I will insist that she rent an international cell phone for the weekend.
I'm OK...had a great practice today and for the first time, STBXW came to watch D5 WHILE I COACHED. Wow....courage. She's a cougar.
Final note...last night, my older sister made time tough for me. I dropped my kids off at my sis' around the corner...texted my W:
Me: XXX..going out for a bit..kids are at my sister's XXX: (immediate return text) Me too.
My STBX then calls my sister: Sister: Hello? XXX: Can I speak with S8? Sister: Who is this? XXX: His mother.. Sister: Who? XXX: His mother Sister: You're an #$%^(
You can imagine the text I got from her after that. Even worse, she brought it up IN FRONT OF THE KIDS THIS MORNING and poisoned them with negative rhetoric. Although my sis was out of place, this is stuff to be dealt with out of ear shot of children.
STBXW hurts the kids, acts immaturely and does NOT have healthy judgment on how to handle issues when the kids are around.
I"m sorry all....my W has been totally out of control the past 1-2 weeks.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
