What I can't deal with or ignore is OW's presence in MY life.
She isn't in your life. Your life is NOT intertwined with your husband's right now. Its not. The ONLY way she would be in your life is if she was spending time with your children. You are choosing to let her in your life. The trick is let your husband be a father. You don't have to let him be your husband right now.
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I don't want to see him or talk to him unless it is business or child related.
You don't even have to tell him this. You are (were) already doing it.
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But if I do this what are the chances of us ever R?
Is what you are doing now giving you any chance of R?
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because for one night I was not going to let him have control over me...
He wouldn't have control over you if you did you own thing. If he didn't know where you were for a few hours. Think about this, he always knows where you are. Work, home, or at a function he is attending.
