How do I communicate this problem to wife?

[Esox]

"Anyway...most guys probably have exotic fantasies, while I just long for a day when I come home from work and my wife greets me actually dressed in something other than sweats and a giant tee shirt, and actually has fixed her hair and makeup and actually seems as though she'd be interested in some intimacy once the baby goes to sleep. This is a "fantasy" that has not played itself out even one time in the 10 months since our child was born. When we do have sex it is usually while baby's napping on a Saturday or Sunday afternoon...as wife strips out of her unflattering clothes for a quickie. Then those unflattering clothes goe back on as the baby wakes up (usually before we're done). Gone is fore-play. Gone is cuddling afterwards. It's just not good enough anymore."

I have lived want you are living. From my personal experience, it doesn't get better. And it won't even start getting better unless you actively address this issue.

I have no advice beyond stop pursing her for sex. If you’re acting needy and petulant, well most women don't find that behavior an aphrodisiac. Find something outside your marriage and invest some time into it, a hobby say. Exercise. I can’t emphasize too much how exercise has changed my mental attitude. I run every day. It is my new addiction. The physical aspects helps me take my mind off of my wife and our issues. Maybe it would work for you too. I’m at about 1 month without sex and it is getting easier. Sleeping on the couch helps too.