Why do you want you him to go to IC to divorce him? Are you hoping that could bring him back to his senses?
I think you could talk to D16 and be frank. I think she would understand, dont you? xxx K
I want him to go to IC because he is in self destruct mode. He is taking himself down and I don't want him taking the Ds with him. It wouldn't be good finance wise if he self-destructed. He is so far gone from his senses, I don't think he will come back.
As for being honest with D, my T and the Ds T say we have to tell them the party line of mommy and daddy are happier apart. Blah, blah...it is better not to tell them the truth. So I can't say "You know R....your dad wouldn't answer my calls for a year and a half. H wants to end our marriage without ever having tried to save it. H wants to pretend he gives a d---. Your dad doesn't mind visiting our house when he chooses after a year of ignoring us and pretend everything is ok. Sorry if I don't care to answer his calls and texts." I would love to tell her that, but I'm not allowed.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
