Sooooo....I do believe the affair has ended. She seems to be feeling pretty stupid about it and was forthcoming about it... I'm not "pushing" her out. She leaves 2-3 nights a week as it is, so i told her if she needs to be away she should go to her friend's house. My coach told me if she keeps bringing it up (and she has repeatedly) to test her. I didn't do it lightly but she needs to feel something over this. She keeps saying "I won't leave my kids" yet she does it frequently. Again tonight.
She wants to lay most everything on my head. I validated what she was feeling but told her she needs own her own issues and actions.
She is a very good woman, just pretty messed up right now. With a lot of my contribution.
She is confused and she feels like there is no chance to miss me.
So the feeling here is to keep her in the house and start Dbing again? We are going through a bankruptcy and giving the house back so we have to rent which is presenting a problem. Money wise we can't afford two houses. So I'm thinking she is stuck with me
Well I guess I'll be using another coaching session with Joann sooner than expected.
Thoughts?
***Getting up every day and learning to breathe in a new me. For me and my children***
Me: 43 W: 38 SD-15 S(s): 12,9,7 Separated-2/14/2009 My sitch
