"how in the hell can I be the lighthouse when this OW is clouding the light?"

By being yourself--not being defensive, smiling, calm, polite, non-judgmental..........you get my drift.....

The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
Divorced 08-12
Kids: 22, 20, 19