My worst fears confirmed! Wife having EA/PA...

[Vdad]

Okay all,

Finally decided after getting many people's counsel that I had to confront the EA (not PA) my wife was having. I t has definitely ended and she came clean.. Wasn't happy about the convo but I had to conclude that i couldn't move forward until this was dealt with.

I let her know that I have already forgiven her and understood how it happens as it had to me earlier.

I think we are heading towards a separation as the daily stress of all of this is driving us both nuts. She needs to figure this out with some space and I need some peace. She spends 2-3 nights a week at a girlfriends house anyway.

She desperately wants to her time and I told her if that's what she needs to process all of her stuff that would be fine.

I told her she needs to own her own part in this mess and we need to clean the slate and start a new marriage. But she needs to work on it with me.

I basically got it all out and told her to consider staying at her girlfriends house for awhile. She told me "she doesn't want to leave her kids", I told her she already was.

We will really be tight with two households, i told her she needs to get structure to her days and until she is working we can't afford to have two houses going. I didn't want to separate but it seems like the only way to get rid of the pressure.

Puppy- I'm glad you had given me som responses to "how did you find out?" I told her that isn't what's important and she dropped it.

So back to DBing...At least it's out in the open now.

Jeff